Thursday, January 1, 2009


Life is indeed strange at times.
I posted this on Dorries Fun Forum, but obviously I must post here as well.
I was standing here, talking to my son while he was on his MySpace account, when my cell phone rang.
It was the pastor's wife that my ex goes to church at. My son has grown up with these people - in my case, both as husband and now ex-husband of my son's mother.
She had some very bad news: my ex's father passed away today, had a massive heart attack and that was the end of that.
So, Caleb - my son - called my ex and they talked for a while - she is flying out to Florida tomorrow - where her family is from - and will be there for a week.

My son said he had just talked to his grandfather just 3 days ago and he was fine.
It's the 1st day of the New Year.
We are down in Sierra Vista, Arizona, visiting his grandfather from my side.

There is more here than meets the eye. I haven't figured it out yet, but - eventually I will. Besides the obvious and the irony of the situation in visiting one grandfather and on that same day, the other one passes - there is more here. Besides the fact that it's a New Year and we are all celebrate the passing of the old year. Beside the fact that JS has also died.

Very strange to me. I knew this man - he visited us while I was still married some years ago and stayed for at least a month. A likable enough guy, we got along well for the time he was here.

Prayers for my son would be appreciated for those that are of the praying sort. I would like to believe we could have a great time tomorrow visiting with my dad, but understandably my son probably isn't going to feel much in the mood.

Never-the-less, we are staying until Saturday unless he voices that he wants to go home before his mom leaves. He wouldn't be going with her, anyway, so unless he must see her, we will stay here and finish this visit. Maybe. See how he does tomorrow, but my dad is a very godly man, still ministering in a church and I do believe he will end up praying with us.

For me, I was not personally related to this man, and though I'm saddened at the loss for my son's sake, I am not really that much affected by it. I always think about my friends and family - extended and near - that are getting older. I also think about my own life - enjoy it while you have it, it won't last forever.

Still, what a way to start out the New Year.

There's some great people I have met on JS and I know at least some of you will be praying, for that I thank you and for those that don't pray, good thoughts or whatever you do will also be most appreciated.



  1. Hi Ben, well I pray and I'll say prayers for you and family. (((hugssss)))

    Be safe and take care,

    Judy aka's okay to call me "sunny" still, if you wish too. ;)

  2. I left you a comment at Dorrie's place but I will say it again here, you and yours are in my thoughts, sorry for your loss.

  3. Thanks, Judy and Tris, I appreciate that. Yeah, Sunny, that name fits you SO well! Especially in lieu of the fact of the things you are going through yourself. You are certainly an inspiration!

  4. Prayers going up, Ben, for you and yours. Sending many warm thoughts your way as well.

  5. Soiled Dove?
    Thanks - my son seems to be doing better today, guess I'll find out after we hook back up with dad and Millie.

  6. sorry for the loss my friends.payers going out as we speak


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