Monday, February 20, 2012


I did not finish the discussion I was engaged in this morning and want to get this nailed down.

This regarding the potential situation at my mother's property, up north, in the mountains, in the pines, but with increasing amounts of neighbors.

So, the last time I was up there, the people next to her - a property that had had no-one living on it for decades - was occupied by a retired couple who owned the property and showed up out of the blue and declared this was their permanent retirement home.

All well and good.  I have no issue with that, it's their property, my mother's days of having almost total solitude are over.  That is the way she likes it, btw.  She isn't a loner, per-se, but she does like her privacy and peace on her own property.  All well and good as well and expected, actually, that you should be able to have peace and privacy on your own property.

She made statements for a long time about the fact that if I wanted to move an RV up there, she would be all for it.  I'm family, different story than neighbors.  I talk to my mother on the phone at least once a week, we are at least relatively close.  Don't see each other that often, but at least we communicate frequently enough.

Also, the last time I was up there, the neighbor next to her neighbor also showed up, out of the blue.  He was half done building his cabin.  He was yelling at his other neighbor - not in anger but to get his attention since the properties aren't exactly small - for whatever purpose.

But what  I saw the entire time I was up there? People that like to make a lot of noise and draw attention to themselves, a thing that I absolutely do NOT want to encounter when I go to the mountains. I did not go to the fence and introduce myself, I had inclination of doing so after the dude got on a Bobcat (small earth-moving machine) with a broken exhaust system, fired it up and making a LOT of noise for what, 2 hours?

I may end up meeting them, but my "guard" will be up.  Live in peace, thank you and let's remember this isn't some NFL stadium where you expect to hear a lot of noise, thanks.  I don't even want to guess about the dude next to those people ............... I'l be content with an RV that is in good shape and serves my camping needs quite swimmingly. If I were retired and had property up there? Sure, I would want a permanent structure, too.  But again, that isn't the problem, is it?

So, I dunno now.  I'm sort of having second thoughts about this.  Yes, quite the change from everything written up to now, but it sounds like more BS than it's worth.  When I go up to the mountains, it's to get  AWAY from people and all the s*** that is to be found in the big city.  I am not going to act in some way that isn't who I am because it's my mother's property.  If some jackass starts a bunch of s***, I am not going to just stand there and take it, as I have said before.

I guess I am too far into this to not follow through with it and at least give it a try, but geeze.  I am doing this on my own dime, thank you, not my mother's.  What does THAT mean?  It means that if I have to, if it doesn't work out, I will just have that trailer dragged off the property and brought back down here and set back into my driveway.  It also means that,  while I respect my mother, just because it's her property doesn't mean I am going to change who I am or how I respond to stupid people who get in your face.

So, I am going to shed all of that since I am going to go through with this and hope for the best.  Here's what I am really afraid of: one of these jackasses is going to come to her property while I am there, start talking their trash to her and I am going to hear it.  If you think I am going to stick my hands into my pockets and walk away squeamishly while some bastard is verbally abusing my mother?  Yeah.  That person will be changing their tone and quickly or that person is going to find out how I feel about them talking to my mother in such a manner.

Hmm, that's enough.

: )



  1. How much property does the quarter million get you? We looked at some here for a little over one THIRD that much that had 25 acres, a house, a trailer, chicken coop and fair sized lake. No mountains.

    I can definitely see you Mom's point. You go up for a long weekend and something happens that SHE gets to live with while you are gone away.

  2. Less than an acre. I think it was listed at about a third of an acre. Prime property is expensive in the mountains, yes, but no-one is going to pay that much money for nothing more than land with trees. Half the property is unusable - it's the side of a mountain.
    My mother is well aware of how I deal with situations and she is the one that has been inviting me up there for quite a long time now with this trailer idea. So, she should also be prepared of how I will deal with adversity if a situation arises. I am not going to go up there looking for trouble, far from it, I am going up there to go hiking with the dogs, out in the pines, away from people and away from civilization.
    Yes, I have heard that property in certain states is cheap, full of trees, water and other things I would find desirable. Moving to a place where I know no-one, however, is a bit less palatable. Moving away from what little family I have - my son namely - even less so. When he moves out and is on his own, then I will take some time to reconsider and weigh my options.
    Summer is coming and oh, would I love to be SOMEWHERE ELSE for that time of year.

  3. Just to add here, I have seen that property listed. I remember it from going around the entire area up there. It is a nice little property - but it IS little. You can't build on a 45 degree elevation - well I guess you can if you're rich and want a house on stilts, but that's out of the question. My mom said that everyone there found out the asking price and just balked: it's not going to sell for anything even close to that.


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