Happy New Year's!
10 am and I'm just getting out of bed.  In Texas of course, stayed up until midnight, then headed out from the lady's house and over to her store to sleep, 2 teenage boys in tow with me.  They wanted to come with for whatever reason so the lady let them and I hung out with them for a while and then headed off to my air mattress bed to get some shuteye at 2 am.  I think the last time I went to bed that late was at least 3 years ago when I was at the casino and was determined to stay there until I got my money back, which I did and then quite some more than that.

Well anyway, I arrived in Tyler at the appointed time on Saturday, she was waiting.  We headed off to one of her friend's house and visited with her for a while, went over to Smashburger and had some delicious burgers and hung out together and then back to the farm/her house.  The next morning, we loaded up the 15 passenger van and headed off to her best friend's house, about a 3-1/2 hour trip.  Met her friend and her friend's husband, hit it right off with him.  Spent the next 2 days hanging out with him, shooting the breeze and it turns out this guy is an airline pilot with United Airlines a captain no less so there was plenty to talk about, lol.  I love flying and planes. Not that knowledgeable about them but I love to talk about them.

Awesome people with a HUGE expanse of land filled with every imaginable kind of animal.  Second day there we went fishing and I caught a 4-1/2 pound bass shortly after we got there : )  Then, he said he had to head off all over the place, taking his daughter somewhere and taking his daughter's friend home, so I said yea, what the hey.  Spent all day with this dude but it was fun.  Nothing like meeting a complete stranger and hitting off so well you'd think we had been best friends for life.

Back home the next day,  pretty much hung out.  Got into another conversation with 2 of the older boys after mom told them in 6 months if it doesn't straighten out, they are goners.  I then took over the conversation and let'em have it.  In a nice and firm way, yes, but still.  The 15 year started tearing up and defending the previous week's actions: I have been doing a lot better!  Yes, you have, but there's still a long way to go.  He had apparenltly "forgotten" about the previous week's threat from mom - get rid of the tudes and anger or get out.  Well, he hadn't forgotten, that's why he spent the last week trying to do things right.  The other one I grilled pretty good, cause' he's the biggest problem child.  He didn't want to hear it and I didn't care, he finally started responding though.

After that, midnight hit, wished my lady a happy New Year, drug those 2 boys with me and they  played video games for a couple of hours.  I decided not to get into it with them again, you can't unload on teenagers all the time and not give them some happy time as well or they will simply not respond to you and you will lose them.  But I do intend on picking up this situation with their attitudes and how they treat their mother again and also telling them directly that if I marry her, and if you two are still around, you can expect that I am going to be ALL up in your business, as the current generation likes to say it, and I will not be relenting.

That's it up until this morning.  It's 11 am Wednesday, I just got out of bed half an hour ago, gonna take these 2 to Denny's for some breakfast and then head back to the farm.  Just an update of things going on.  The boys are all asking when am I going to marry their mom.  I just say when God releases it.  That's what I am waiting on and that's what it's going to be.  But I need more time with her and her boys. I must know that this is going to work.  And she needs to know that I refuse to live in a house that doesn't have peace.  Yes, there can be squabbles that's all well and fine, here and there, but on a daily basis with belligerent teenagers mouthing off and dropping f bombs and destroying things and all the rest of it?

NOT.  And that's where I am going with these problem children.  They obviously like me, like hanging out with me and being around me, that's cool, but I am not going to be their best friend if I marry their  mom and they need to know that.  I can be friends with them up to the point that it doesn't interfere with authority over them to tell them what to do, when to do it and get with it, shut your mouth, drop the attitude and let's get on with life.

Enough.

Happy New Year's to everyone again!

G'day.

ben

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  1. Sounds balanced.

    fin

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  2. Happy New Year and all the best to the both of you, Ben!

    Neil and I knew only met and knew each other for 1 week before we were engaged and then married about 5 months later (married for 35 years this year). So I hope it all works out for the both of you!

    Cheers

    Lynne
    Western Australia

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  3. Well it's a work in progress, Fin.
    Thanks Lynne, and I am very happy that has worked out so well for you! But I have already been married once and I don't ever want to go through that kind of situation with another person again. I am also feeling out the situation with her boys. I have 2 more of them with me tonight. I have to know that this is going to work out with them or at least has a good probability of doing so before I make that kind of commitment again.

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  4. You're a wise fellow, TruckerB! If you guys do get married, she will have an excellent "captain" of her "ship," and those kids'll have just the right kind of father in their lives. I'm rootin' fer your gittn hitched! ;)

    Mpathetic

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