Took the kids to church at 5:30 - as is customary during the school year and on Wednesday nights. They were both in good spirits, thought cool, this will be fine.
Came back 2 hours later. The youngest was sitting on a bench outside of the children's church with a "look" on his face. It's sort of a cross between a frown, anger and sadness - well, let's put this more clearly: defiance. I knew instantly without anyone saying anything that he had started his shit with someone, don't know who, but someone and he had gotten into trouble for it.
Then the ministry leader - she's actually a salaried employee but has a big heart for kids and is over all of it - motioned me over. We had a discussion. He had not started it with another kid, as I had thought, he was disrespecting the ministry person that was trying to work with him. When I say that, I'm talking about a many with a great amount of patience and love, a hearing ear, someone that isn't easily put off.
But tonight? He brought the child to her, the ministry leader and said I can't deal with him, enough of this. I was not happy, of course and I'm not even the parent. I then got into a discussion about asking for forgiveness? No, he didn't do that. Do you want to go apologize to him now? No. Are you sure? No. The leader said well, we want him to stay home for a week. Even the church doesn't want him in there!
I don't blame them either and I also don't blame the parents. I have watched them try every method under the sun from belts to treats, to timeouts to everything you can imagine and none of it, literally nothing works. He .... doesn't....care. When we got outside of the church I addressed him directly: Don't even try that on me.
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Total distraction and many hours later, it's time to go to bed.
I've been given work through Sunday, unfortunately. I think it's because I asked for 2 weekdays off in a row either next week or the week after - no specific days excepting not on Mondays. I need the time to get stuff done for the project. I can't work this job and get that stuff done at the same time, just not working for me.
Anyway, time for bed.
